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By: suchitra mishra On: January 6, 2013 In: Life, Managing Yourself Comments: 20

And once the storm is over, you won’t remember how you made it through, how you managed to survive. You won’t even be sure, whether the storm is really over. But one thing is certain. When you come out of the storm, you won’t be the same person who walked in. That’s what this storm’s all about.

― Haruki Murakam

A very Happy New Year to all my readers. This is my first post for the year (and the fiftieth post since I started this blog around a year back – whew!). Life has a way of teaching us its lessons sometimes in a gentle and sometimes in a harsh way. The past year has been stormy in more ways than one for many of us. And as Haruki Murakam said so rightly, we are not the same people we were same time last year. This post is a sum up of the five top insights/learning that got reinforced for me through the past year. I hope that these resonate with you as well and that you will write back to me on what you learned too.

Life Lesson #1: Miracles do happen – Don’t dismiss the moments of magic in your life as coincidences; they are indeed the miracles that you have consciously or sub-consciously prayed for. I have written about my mom’s medical challenges earlier – kidneys gone, iffy heart, multiple strokes, paralysis, speech loss – you name it and she has had it over the past year. Giving up was not an option for her and us even though everybody else almost had. My family and I were blessed to witness the miracle of her come-back to a life of dignity. I now know for sure that yes, miracles can happen – yes, they do – all it takes is a lot of faith, courage and patience.

Life Lesson #2: Choose your relationships with careLife is too short to waste on relationships that suck the energy out of you. Be it at work or at home, opt out of the relationships that take more than give, that withdraw in your times of need and that can’t withstand a bit of wear and tear. You CAN change your environment if you can’t be happy in it. There is a whole world of great people out there waiting for you to reach out – drop the negatives around you and connect to the positive. Who you know has become as important if not more as what you know – choose carefully your co-passengers in the journey of life.

Life Lesson #3: You ALWAYS have a choice – There is a big difference between accepting your fate/destiny/whatever you call it and being resigned to it. It is only when life is embraced in its totality, only when we live in the heights, depths and surfaces can we learn that we can immerse ourselves in the joys and also endure the suffering that is always near by. There is no good answer to “why me?” or “what have I done to deserve this?”.  Instead face each day with the confidence that you can handle everything that life throws at you and get better at “handling” with each passing day.

Life Lesson # 4: If you can’t fly then run – If you can’t run then walk, if you can’t walk then crawl, but whatever you do you have to keep moving forward. Martin Luther King said this and he also said that the time is always right to do the right thing…. The full meaning of these quotes hit me this year in many ways both through my experiences (quit my job and went solo) and of those around me. If you believe in something, trust your instincts and just go for it – a path will open up in front of you step by step, effort by effort.

Life Lesson # 5: The moments are all we have – make the most of it – This is a reinforcement of my “Happy in the Now” philosophy that I have followed for the last year and now I can report confidently that it works, it really does 🙂 The past year has been the happiest year in my life in spite of everything and not because I did anything extraordinary – it is just that I learnt to be conscious of and savour every moment. In the “busy” ness of life, it is so easy to lose track of the moments that make up time. It helps to stop, take a deep breath and be aware of the now – be content.

Sometimes the greatest wisdom is hidden in the simplest of things. The thoughts above may seem like a bunch of platitudes but in the past year, I had some Eureka moments which taught me the meaning behind these platitudes. What common wisdom triggered an uncommon moment for you in the past year? What lesson did life teach YOU that you hope you have learned well? I would love to share in your experiences.

A BIG thank you to all my readers for your support in the past year. Without you, this blog would have died long back.

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20 Comments:

    • David Graham
    • January 06, 2013
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    Very good life lessons thank you Suchitra. Happy New Year and all the very best for 2013!

      • Suchitra Mishra
      • January 06, 2013
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      Hello David,

      Thank you for dropping by and for sharing my post, David. Wish you the best too for the New year and my heartfelt gratitude to you for being a good friend and teacher online 🙂

      Regards,
      Suchitra

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    • January 06, 2013
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    • Neeraj
    • January 07, 2013
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    Hello Suchitra – A happy new year to you too…. Interesting philosophical perspectives.
    BTW, what’s behind the # 5 in your life?

      • Suchitra Mishra
      • January 07, 2013
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      Thanks for dropping by, Neeraj. Glad you found the post interesting. As is always the case with the adoption of any philosophy, it was a culmination of events and experiences that led to that personal choice…

      Regards,
      Suchitra

    • Subraya Bhagwat
    • January 07, 2013
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    Dear Suchitra, Happy New Year to you as well. I like your style of writing. Very good

      • Suchitra Mishra
      • January 07, 2013
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      Thanks, Subraya – I just love compliments 🙂

      Regards,
      Suchitra

    • Anonymous
    • January 08, 2013
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    Truly inspiring and hope to emulate the “happy in NOW” perspective for all times to come. God Bless u and have a great year & wishing u the very best!!

    • Mahapatra
    • January 08, 2013
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    Very nicely articulated!! God bless u with great wisdom and such beautiful thoughts always!! Wish to forever emulate the “happy in NOW” perspective in life!!
    Have an accomplished year ahead!!!

      • Suchitra Mishra
      • January 08, 2013
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      Thank you, Maps ! A very pleasant surprise for me to get your feedback. I think you have already mastered the Happy in the Now philosophy by the way – you know how to live life king size 🙂
      Wish you a great year ahead too.

      Love,
      Suchitra

    • Kavita
    • January 08, 2013
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    Hi Suchitra

    Simple, seem to be very common life lessons, yet very powerful with their deep meanings which we easily tend to ignore in this rat race. By reinforcing these lessons and linking them to your own life, you induced a great belief in these mantras for the readers. Thank you for sharing these gems and I am now very much going to practice ‘Happy in now’ philosophy.. 🙂

    May you write another 100 posts this year… 🙂

    Regards
    kavita

    • Suchitra Mishra
    • January 08, 2013
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    Hello Kavita,

    Glad these lessons resonated with you. Thank you for being such a good friend and supporter of my blog.
    And Amen to your wish of a 100 blog posts – needed that 🙂
    Regards,
    Suchitra

    • Anonymous
    • January 09, 2013
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    Very nice thoughts. I’m also trying to follow the “happy in The Now” philosophy.

    Keep guiding me when I start drifting away from it 🙂

    Regards,
    Tapanesh

    • Judy Gombita (@jgombita)
    • January 16, 2013
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    Although we are not always in touch as frequently these days, Suchitra (for a variety of reasons), I enjoy it when I can “catch up” with you via your blog posts (although one-to-one is still preferable).

    And even if we don’t communicate regularly, I KNOW you are available, kindred spirit, should I have a need. I hope you feel the same about me.

    You are a keeper friend, Happy in the Now.

    Judy

      • Suchitra Mishra
      • January 16, 2013
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      Judy – you are the guardian angel of this blog and a forever friend. My biggest gain from Twitter – getting you as a friend 🙂

      Much Love,
      Suchitra

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    • crazygoangirl
    • January 31, 2013
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    Was led to this article by Zemanta when I wrote my own Lessons learned post today. Times such as these are what make the blogging experience truly special. This is a post that instantly touched my heart. I’ve had a tough start to the year, but I WILL survive!

    Love the Murakami quote and the everything else about the post 🙂 Will be back for more 🙂

    • crazygoangirl
    • January 31, 2013
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    Also wanted to say – I totally dig your tagline 🙂

    • Khalid Kadri
    • February 20, 2013
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    It was a very interesting read. I believe in everything you have written. A very Happy 2013 to me, to you & to everyone. Khalid

    • Oyuna
    • April 03, 2013
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    Hi, Suchitra. I’ve been thinking of resigning from my job for quite a while now. I couldn’t leave because of quite a good salary and bonus that allowed me to take good care of my family as well as make mortgage loan payments. The company I work for is a big, successful company, and I’ve worked here for over 10 yrs now. I’m a part of the Csuite team, so I’ve reached the respected status and reputation.
    But I’ve been stuck in one position for the several years now, I do not hate my job, but I don’t love it either – I can be desribed as an actively disengaged employee.

    I’ve built up enough courage and submitted my resignation letter. I do not have the next job lined up for me – and as of now I’m quite scared and question myself if I did the right thing. I even wished that my resignation was not accepted, but it is…Trying to be positive, but it is not easy.

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