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By: suchitra mishra On: July 16, 2020 In: Life, Managing Yourself, Motivation Comments: 6

The happiness of most people is not ruined by great catastrophes or fatal errors, but by the repetition of slowly destructive little things.  ~Ernest Dimnet~

More and more, I have come to realize that happiness is a choice; it lies inside us just waiting to be tapped and is not something that we will get if so-and-so happens.

All seasons are beautiful for the person who carries happiness within ~Horace Friess

So what stops up from being happy in the now? If Happiness really is a choice, what can we choose not to do so that we feel good inside all the time? I think it sums up to these five attitudes or mood-killers:

Mood-Killer #1: Comparisons (Measuring yourself by other’s standards) – Why oh why do I not have what he or she has?

Mood-Killer #2: Dissatisfaction (and not Appreciating what you have) – I wish I was a perfect…….

Mood-Killer #3: Dependence (Playing the victim) – If only he or she did or did not do this or that, I would be so much happier…

Mood-Killer #4: Boredom (Not getting a Life) – I have nothing to do, nowhere to go and the whole world is a drab, dry place…

Mood-Killer #5: Worry (the What-If game) – Oh no, the world is going to end in 2012, what if I cannot charge my cell-phone?

So, shed a few tears if you will, stop that thought process there, get into your groove and DO HAPPY!

Much has been said about this and here are a few of my favourite quotes that best describe what I have learnt:

If you are not happy here and now, you never will be ~Taisen Deshimaru

How simple it is to see that we can only be happy now, and there will never be a time when it is not now~Gerald Jampolsky

Happiness is not a state to arrive at, but a manner of traveling ~Margaret Lee Runbeck

Happiness is an inside job ~William Arthur Ward

6 Comments:

    • abhinavarya
    • April 28, 2012
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    every Saturday comes up with some learning or motivations from your pen (actually keyboard 🙂 ) and fortunately all blogs seems to be written keeping common man like me in mind 🙂 . All 5 points are part of my life too and reading the blog is like seeing myself in mirror. Hope I’ll be able to kill these mood killers soon, thanks 🙂

      • Suchitra Mishra
      • April 28, 2012
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      Nothing common about you, Abhinav – you are special.

      Thank you for being a regular reader – that you can relate to the posts and find them useful is the best compliment that I can get for my blog.
      Thanks,
      Suchitra

    • Joel Don
    • May 01, 2012
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    The ultimate short list to getting over it and moving on. Nice change-up for your blog. 🙂

      • Suchitra Mishra
      • May 02, 2012
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      Hello Joel,

      Thanks – I enjoyed writing this one too. And well, we have enough research that proves Happiness is good for Business too 🙂
      Regards,
      Suchitra

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